Depression and Your Relationship

"Extra" Lifechangers Dr. Neal Barnard and Dr. Nader Pouratian discuss how depression can have negative effects on a relationship. Also, find out about a revolutionary new tool for battling clinical depression.

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Plus I’ve lost 10 pounds in 2 weeks and have started smoking more cigarettes and I can’t stop myself. I don’t know what to do. My kids and husband are begging me to stop and it makes me feel like I am a bad mom and wife. Then that makes me smoke more. Help me.

Gina
April 9, 2010

Thanks Colleen but the rough thing is that I have been dealing with pain since I was 15. There was a hurricane that hit our island in ‘95 and after it passed I had to clean up the mess that was my made in my house. When taking the roofing out I fell down the stairs and that gave me 3 slipped discs 1 inflamed disc and a herniated disc. I also have mild levo scoliosis and was dealing with the depression of my dad dying. I am still trying to deal with his death, he was diagnosed with lukemia on 11/6/92 and was sent off island and died 12/6/92 at the age of 12 that was too much for me to deal with. I don’t want to sound bad but my mom was sick since I was 3 so I thought she would go first so my dad was my life. He was never sick and was always strong so we never saw this coming. Then he was cremated so I never got to say good-bye. I die everyday with that thought. Now my son has Von Willebrand disease, when I was told he had a blood problem I couldn’t help it all the feelings rushed back and they say they have to check my daughter too but they want to wait until she’s like 5. There is too much going on and I don’t know how to handle it.

Gina
April 9, 2010

Gina—
Although I am a bit older than you (50) I battle chronic pain every day of my life.I have fibro/myofacial nerve damage brittle bone severe depression,anxiety and panic attacks. (those were diagnosed about a year after the pain started and I was hospitalized) I could not eat and lost 16 pounds. I remember feeling the way you are feeling right now and still have days of pain and hopelessness.
I would suggest looking into medication to help you along these lines as well. It is not a cure-all answer but you will go deeper and deeper in to the pain if you just ignore it. It’s a cycle of pain causes depression and depression causes pain. My doctor tried to steer me in this direction before I was hospitalized but I was so tired of taking medication I did not want to hear her. Depression is a physical desease that needs to be treated as so.
Hang in there!

colleen
April 8, 2010

I am 29 years old and was told about a year ago that I have Trigeminal Neurolgia and was put on Tegretol it was helping me until about 3 weeks ago. I was then put on Neurotin and given Vicodin but the pain has gotten worst and the pills just make me sick. I was told there is nothing the doctors can do after that and all I do is cry in pain. I don’t think I can do this anymore but I have a 9 year old,3 year old, and a husband who is trying to do everything for me, but I can’t help myself I want to die the pain is too much for me. I don’t have insurance and I am willing to try anything I am even doing accupuncture with no relief.I don’t think my marriage will last what do I do?

Gina
April 8, 2010
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