Rihanna you need to contact your family. Don’t let Chris get even a stronger stranglehold on you. I don’t care if you hit Chris first. I am not saying that it is right for you to hit him either, but if you did hit him it did not give him the right to brutally attack you. I don’t care if you started the fight. It did not give him the right to brutally attack you. You are not at fault for what Chris is going through right now. He is the one that left you in the shape that you were in. He caused his own problems, not you. You need to get over feeling guilty and blaming yourself for this. As a past abuse victim I understand the turmoil of emotions that you are probably feeling right now, but these emotions are a part of the battered woman syndrome. Do not let Chris, etc. isolate you from those that care about you!!!!!! The abuse will not stop. You did not deserve the abuse. My ex was finally sentenced to 4 years in prison for brutally attacking his girlfriend 10 years ago. They don’t change.

This is what helped me to get out:
My college Psychology professor made the comment that love and fear involve the same physiological emotions. It was then that I understood why I thought that I loved my ex. What I was actually feeling was fear.
A battered woman goes through 4 stages: denial (deny you are being abused), guilt (if I hadn’t done this or that), enlightenment (realize it is not your fault, but still want to work things out), responsibility (accept that the other person won’t or can’t stop the violence and get out and stay out). “Battered Women The ways you can help”, RN magazine, October 1981.

Abuse is a serious situation. It should not be ignored or made light of. Women need all the support we can give them to help them through this time in their life. Thank God I had support. I stayed as long as did, because of the stages above and because I thought that my family was safer if I stayed with him so I tried to work things out. This is the stupid way battered women think. By staying a woman doesn’t make herself or anyone else safer. You may risk your life getting out, but it could cost you your life if you stay.

Don’t judge Rihanna choices even though they don’t make sense. It is just part of the battered woman syndrome.

why did you hit rihanna did she get you mad you did,t have to put your hand on her why did you do that.

The one thing I hope for is that she is speaking to her family. That is very important for an abused victim. Rihanna needs her family for support and love and comfort.

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Rihanna’s father waiting for her to call
Singer’s dad complains that he’s been misquoted

Rihanna and Chris Brown
An assault allegation and arrest shatter the world of two of music’s rising young stars.

Attorney: Rihanna will testify if called
Rihanna’s dad hopes she moves on from Brown

updated 1 hour, 38 minutes ago
BRIDGETOWN, Barbados - Rihanna’s father is reportedly waiting for her to tell him about the alleged attack by R&B singer Chris Brown.

Ronald Fenty is the father of the Barbados native. The Barbados Nation News says Fenty is disturbed by reports of last month’s altercation.

The Sunday newspaper quotes Fenty as saying, “all I have been seeing is the Internet reports. I am waiting on her to call me.” ———————————————————————————————————————————————————————————- news from msnbc.

Rihanna’s Family Cannot Contact Her. From insider mag.

Rihanna’s family cannot get in contact with her. They have tried cell phones to no avail and her email has been changed. Her mother, her brother and her father have all tried to get in contact with her and failed.

Since Rihanna met Chris in Diddy’s Miami home, her family has not talked to her. They claim “someone” is in the way and blocking communication with her. Her father did an interview with US Weekly and this is what he said:

US: If those reports are true, how upset are you?
RF: I don’t know what to say, honest to god. I’ve been hearing so many stories. I don’t feel any pain anymore. I’ve gone numb. I’ve heard so much. But I can’t get on to her. Her mother can’t get on to her, her brother told me she changed her email. Somebody has a stranglehold on her. I’m lost.

US: I know you’ve been speaking with your daughter over text. Is she no longer reachable?
RF: I’ll text the old numbers she had, and I call them. One girl answered, and she said, “This is not Robyn’s number anymore.” I asked, “Do you work for Robyn? Do you deal with Robyn?” And the girl hung up, so I don’t know what’s going on anymore. I’m lost.

Us: What was her last text to you?
RF: [She] said, “Daddy, I miss you.” And that’s it. And I could not reply. I saw a number and texted back, “I miss you too.” And I didn’t get another reply from her.

Truly sad indeed. Not only is Chris abusing her, but keeping her away from people who want her away from him. Does anyone fear violence in the future?

article from the INSIDER MAG.

Rihanna’s Family Reacts to Charges

Originally posted Thursday March 05, 2009 08:00 PM EST
Rihanna and Chris Brown


Just hours after Chris Brown was charged with two felonies – assault and making criminal threats – in the alleged beating of his girlfriend, Rihanna, one of the Barbados-born pop star’s relatives tells PEOPLE, “It’s about time.”

“He should be in jail,” Rihanna’s relative says of Brown, 19, who faces up to four years and eight months in state prison. “He deserves whatever he gets.”

Contacted in Barbados, Rihanna’s father reacted with surprise and displeasure to detailed reports leaked earlier today about the alleged bloody assault on his daughter.

“I was annoyed. I never hit my daughter,” says Ronald Fenty, 55. “Why should he hit her? Why would any one do that? I was crazy, but I don’t know the situation and I wasn’t there.”

Rihanna, 21, and Brown have gotten back together since the incident, much to the dismay of her family. “No one wants them back together,” the relative told PEOPLE on Monday. “I don’t ever want her to go through this again.” article from people mag

Rihanna’s dad’s name is Ronald Fenty or RF.

ISOLATION, That’s part of the domestic violence cycle. Rihanna needs her family for LOVE, comfort, solace and feedback. I hope that those news articles are not true and that SHE IS REACHING OUT TO HER FAMILY.

ISOLATION is the worst thing Rihanna can do. She needs her family. If she is unreachable, how can her family help
her?

Rihanna’s Father: “Somebody Has a Stranglehold on Her. I’m Lost”
Thursday March 5, 2009

After Chris Brown was charged with two felonies Thursday for his Feb. 8 attack on Rihanna, her father tells Usmagazine.com exclusively, “Justice can never be served in this situation.”

Adds Fenty, “He can’t feel the pain she felt.”

US: What was your reaction after hearing Chris Brown was charged with two felonies?
Fenty: I don’t know how to react. Chris is a very talented guy. I still think he’s a little immature for Rihanna. Justice can never be served in this situation. He can’t feel the pain she felt. I don’t believe in hitting a woman. I hope everything works out better for them. I don’t feel happy or sad. He’s in the court’s hands. Let justice prevail.

US: Have you seen the new police report that details Brown biting, hitting and threatening to kill Rihanna?
Fenty: I haven’t seen anything. I hear so many things. I don’t know what to believe until I see it myself. Rihanna’s mother is telling me that she hasn’t heard anything from her [Rihanna]. She said the last she heard Rihanna was well.

US: If those reports are true, how upset are you?
RF: I don’t know what to say, honest to god. I’ve been hearing so many stories. I don’t feel any pain anymore. I’ve gone numb. I’ve heard so much. But I can’t get on to her. Her mother can’t get on to her, her brother told me she changed her email. Somebody has a stranglehold on her. I’m lost.

US: I know you’ve been speaking with your daughter over text. Is she no longer reachable?
RF: I’ll text the old numbers she had, and I call them. One girl answered, and she said, “This is not Robyn’s number anymore.” I asked, “Do you work for Robyn? Do you deal with Robyn?” And the girl hung up, so I don’t know what’s going on anymore. I’m lost.

Us: What was her last text to you?
RF: [She] said, “Daddy, I miss you.” And that’s it. And I could not reply. I saw a number and texted back, “I miss you too.” And I didn’t get another reply from her.

US: Obviously, you still support her.
RF: Yes, of course. Anyone in my family, I’m there for them. All of my kids, I’m there for them. Rihanna’s no exception. All of them I would support. I would tell them where they go wrong, I’d chastise them when they do s—t, but to be honest with you they have their own life to live.

US: What would you say to Chris Brown if you saw him today?
RF: I would tell Chris, “Don’t ever try again, don’t even think about it.” I’m hurt and disturbed at that scenario.

Rihanna’s father waiting for her to call
Posted 1h 45m ago

Barbados (AP) — Rihanna’s father is reportedly waiting for her to tell him about the alleged attack by R&B singer Chris Brown.
Ronald Fenty is the father of the Barbados native. The Barbados Nation News says Fenty is disturbed by reports of last month’s altercation.

The Sunday newspaper quotes Fenty as saying, “all I have been seeing is the Internet reports. I AM WAITING FOR HER TO CALL ME.
Fenty also complained that tabloids have been misquoting him.
ARTICLE FROM USA NEWSPAPER

To all those people out there that’s trying to figure Rihanna out, here it is; she’s in love, probably her first true love and she is confused.

This is where her daddy is supposed to step in with some damn good advice, but if you were being handed a million dollar allowance from your baby girl I guess you would go with the flow too!

But if I were him, he had better put his baby girl first before he has to make funeral arrangements in the near future!

Girl move on he is a loser. You donot deserve this. I thought you were a smart girl. I know everyone makes mistakes but his almost cost you your life. leave that boy alone

Girl move on he is a loser. You donot deserve this. I thought you were a smart girl. I know everyone makes mistakes but his almost cost you your life. leave that boy alone

CHRIS BROWN IS A MENACE TO SOCIETY.

Right on - karste45, I just posted a message on the other story about “the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior”. Rihanna and Brown a curious order at about 4pm.

Maybe if we use that term over and over, it will stick in the brain of an abused woman or Rihanna. Coolie !

As Dr. Phil says, you teach people how to treat you. You most certainly do. She needs to have someone who cares about her tell her what Oprah say, “Love doesn’t hurt.” If none of that sinks in there are shelves in the bookstores devoted to low self-esteme, disfunction, co-dependance and the like.
Good luck Rhianna, the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Think about it.

It’s a shame that a young girl that has the means to escape from her abuser choses to stay with the creep. It may not be a popular opinion ,but now she is responsible for what ever happens to her.