Dr. Gabe,
Wow! I am a student in PS315, and how neat to see you on TV! I do want to say you did an incredible job relating to the students on their level. I think that is truly a gift that is rare to find.

Interesting how the students responded to the concept of modeling. Is a person innately supposed to know to learn from negative behaviors and not repeat them if that is all he or she has seen? Some people say yes, like the girl in the video, and some say no.

Also, I liked the competing behavior comment. It was broken down into simple terms, and I think its something I can apply in my own life.

Hi Dr Gabe! This is Shanique Sass from your PSY315 class. I think your discussion with the students was great. Young people need to discuss this issue because a lot of them have the wrong idea about how to treat one another. I think you brought up a good point about parents protecting their kids. Parents should be more involved and aware of whom their children associate with. If parents do not discuss situations like Chris and Rihanna’s, this cycle of violence will continue to happen every day.

Hi Dr. Gab: I am very impressed with these students and with your sharing with them tools that can help them better their lives. I remember that movie “Pass It ON” and if everyone would just pass on a good deed and share good support tools our nation would be a better place to live.

Dr. Gabe… I really enjoyed this clip and it seemed that you really clicked with the younger generation. The part of the clip that I can relate to is when you were talking about taking on a new behavior to replace the old one. This is true especially for people who have grown up in not so good or abusive environments where they learn this behavior and use it in thier lives.
It is not easy to change one’s behavior but as you said you need to be able to have that other behavior telling you not to do something and hopefully that good behavior will take over with time. It does work, I am living proof of that.. Thanks Dr. Gabe hope to work with you in the field one day..

Daniel Barnes (Kansas City) PS 315

Hello Dr. Gabe. This is Jondra Johnson from your PS315 Theories of Personality class. It was amazing to listen to what these high school students had to say. It was interesting listening to them talk about celebrities as role models, and how you related this to the social learning theory. Great advice on taking what you learn and share it with others! Good job!

Bottom line is behavior is a choice. Wether you grew up in that enviroment or not, you are now an adult and you can choose to find apropriate help to learn new tools or you can choose to physically/verbally/psychologically abuse someone. A lot of times the reason why people go back to their abuser is becasue they are so mentally/emotionally beat down that they believe this is their only choice. What we can do in the situation of someone going back to their abuser is to be supportive (not victim blaming) and let them know that we will always be there for them no matter what

Hello Dr. Gabe. This is Heather Trembley from your personality of theories class. Reviewing your discussion with other students was really awsome and heartfilled. I know of someone who is going through a life rough in a similar situation. Reviewing what you said could help. The competing thing was really good. Should one hit or should one not. Do you want to hit or do you want to dance. That was something put on Chris. Rihanna going back to him was a given thing. They usually all go back in every situation that you hear about this. Chris needs help and hopefully he will get it.

Hello Dr. Gabe!! It’s Deetria Foster from your PS315 classroom. Wow! I thought what you did was awesome to go out and speak to the students. Teenagers are so easily influenced, especially by icons in Pop Culture. I think it was great to go out and speak to them to find out their views and personal feelings on the abuse incident. I was surprised and relieved to find out that all of the students, especially the males really sympathized with Rhianna. I see alot of times and even with other celebs, such as Kanye West who stated that there must have been something for her to provoke him, and how they still support Chris Brown. All the while completely forgetting the fact that she is the victim in the situation. This was so important for you to speak to the students and get their real and honest opinions. Well Done!

~ Deetria Foster

Dr. Crenshaw, what was done here provided some insight from America’s inner-city schools. This was South Central Los Angeles, right?
I have to say, however, that I am a product of a very physically abusive upbringing. At 25 years old, never receiving any sort of counseling, I have yet to act out or reenact that was demonstrated around me as a child. Would you suggest that I look into getting some counseling to prevent this from ever happening to me?

You know Dr. Gabe,(lol, I feel like I know you, dude!)Anyway There is an old saying that I recall my parents mentioning “History repeats itself.” Thre have been some instances in my life when I said to myself this seems to be true.

Chris Brown losing it and putting everything on the line concerning his freedom, career, and reputation. Now I remember my parents’ rule. If someone hits you, you better hit them back! Is this rule still being taught by parents today? Do you support this way of thinking, Dr. Gabe? Is it suddenly okay to strike another human being, today? Let’s hope not, but you play with a snake and you will bet bit!

I don’t personally think that any man should hit any female. Is there still a place and time for everything. I don’t have all the facts to what really went on that particular night or how he and Rhianna lived their lives prior to that infamous incident. But this is a relationship between two individuals that appear to have enormous feelings for each other. They’re both very young with a history of abuse in their families. “The fruit don’t fall far from the tree! you know Dr. G!”

Let’s suppose Rhianna hit Chris continously and refused his wishes to stop. He’s warning trying to take control of a situation that was getting out of hand. Now flashes of seeing his mother getting beat by his stepfather comes in and out of his mind. Keep in mind that they are both confined to the small space in this sports car. She’s trying to be controlling but, he’s just not having it. Now he resorts to what he knows best..Uh Oh! Ooops UPside the Head!!

And that’s how I see it!:

Hello, Dr. Gabe
My name is Brenda J. Thomas. Let me first say, Job Well DONE!! You seemed to really connect with those kids. You should think about starting a monthly workshop to help young (and old) peoplelearn how to overcome abuse!!

Clearly, as you’ve so marvelously stated before, money does not guarantee emotional stability—I’d like to add nor does it heal scars.

You’ve got a lot of people watching you, Young Doctor—Let’s see what you do with what you’ve been GIVEN!!! Don’t you dare mess up young man, Now America’s KIDS ARE WATCHING YOU!!
You don’t look like a doctor!! but you sound like one—-and that’s good enough for me!!

-Live Strong!-

Hello, Dr. Gabe
My name is Brenda J. Thomas. Let me first say, Job Well DONE!! You seemed to really connect with those kids. You should think about starting a monthly workshop to help young (and old) peoplelearn how to overcome abuse!!

Clearly, as you’ve so marvelously stated before, money does not guarantee emotional stability—I’d like to add nor does it heal scars.

You’ve got a lot of people watching you, Young Doctor—Let’s see what you do with what you’ve been GIVEN!!! Don’t you dare mess up young man, Now America’s KIDS ARE WATCHING YOU!!
You don’t look like a doctor!! but you sound like one—-and that’s good enough for me!!

-Live Strong!-

Dr. Gabe i want to just say that I really DO CARE about the situation because of my daughters like I say. And also because there are a lot of women out there getting physically, mentally, sexually, economically abused. But just necause this is the rich and famouis people are making a big deal about it.

Dr. Gabe:

In my opinion this is a bad situation because Rhiana and chris brown were role models for a lot of teenagers, just like in your movie. I have 2 daughters and they love Rhiana music, but now they don’t sing her songs anymore. They talk about how Chris Brown abused her physically! I’m just sick of it.

Morena

I like Dr. Gabe, but, honestly, I think peoples opinions and beliefs have been shaped and manipulated by the media—so basically the fact that these two individuals involved in this situation are well known entertainers seems to just be another public lynching and character assassination by the all too powerful mass media.

hey mr gabe !
i want congratulate you at first !
i thinks this it’s very interesting
to talk with the students..and i hope they will get positive ideas with you !
adama from sénégal !

Didn’t Tina davis’ lawyer, Mr. Marshall B. Grossman issue a statement that the relationship between Ms. Davis & Mr. Brown is that of manager and client? If this statement is true, my question to you Dr. Crenshaw is did Rhianna go to far?

I saw this episode with Dr. Gabe, too. my reaction was really mixed emotions. It is so amazing how these incidents come across as ‘casual’ to younger students and members of society. It shouldn’t be a surprise though because domestic violence seems to be a regular part of our everyday lives; lives of the less educated, unwealthy, and lower socio-economic class of people. Nevertheless, I wonder what impact does such an incident have on a young person providing that they admire these two individuals? What modeling effect do they have on the younger generation who simply adores them?!
As much as both parties need some counseling, wouldn’t it be wise for the media (HINT, DR. GABE) TO NOW EXPLAIN AND COUNSEL THE publiC ONthis specific issue? Too much has been shared about the problems and we are left to think whatever we want to about it. It is about time the media play a role in healing our conscious and sub-conscious with some great doctors!!

So, Great Work Dr. Crenshaw! LET’S HAVE MORE INTERACTION!! WE NEED MORE PROGRAMS ON TV, ESPECIALLY FOR CHILDREN AND IMPRESSIONABLE YOUTHS.

“If many little people, in many little places, do many little things, they could change the face of the earth”

Ooops, I think I put this in the wrong place, does it matter. I just want as many people to see what I have to say as possible. for the sake of our kids!!
Jacqueline Aguet

- Jacqueline

Dr. Gabe have you considered while you’re reaching all of these kids that maybe Rhianna is just young and beautiful and ready to get PAID?! She may be jealous of Chris Brown’s success

Physical Abuse is sometimes dismissed because the victim wants to believe “it won’t happen again” or that it was an “accident.” In some cases the victim may feel empowered that the abuser can be so emotional about them (got this from the Oprah show, she’s been talkin’ about this, too, Dr. Gbae) Whatever the case may be the abuser (chris Brown ) needs to first acknowledge that there is a problem and seek help!!!

Thank you (sorry it’s so long, I just don;t want this to die, B4 someone else does!!)

Doris